I am a working mom and I have a great job - well paying, lots of responsibility, and I feel like I'm doing something good. I don't like to mix work and personal life but just this once, I will. Find out a bit more about what I do here - and I mean just a bit more since this is just a small part of my job role as Director of Events and Educational Programs for a company I'd rather not name.
But anyways, I do love what I do in a sense. I'm lucky because I can work from home, I have flexible hours, and my company really appreciates me.
The downside is I work A LOT and I cannot stay home with Lyla and just play. I have her at home with me 2 days a week and the other days she's at "school". And I do realize I complain about this A LOT on this blog!
Anywho, that is not the point of this post. The problem I have is that I do have a pretty cool job and sometimes I like to talk about it. Not brag, but talk. I like to tell people what I do, how I'm not just your average working mom. I like to share how what I do is important and I am an intelligent, creative individual who is valued in the work place. Sometimes doing this reminds me how much I love my family and my life because I'm able to provide for them with the work I do and it makes it worthwhile the time I spend away from them.
My beef is with people who don't care to ask. Whenever I meet someone new, I ask them about themselves. What do you do, where are your from, etc. I'm a pretty friendly girl if I do say so myself. But no one reciprocates this - and I mean no one. When I'm out with my husbands coworkers - not one of them asks me about my work. When I'm out with family - they don't ask me what I do or how work is (and my mom doesn't count!). When I'm meeting new people - none of them seem to care; especially if I have Lyla climbing all over me. To them, I'm just a mom.
But I'm not just a mom. And no one is "just a mom" for the record. "Just a mom" is the lamest thing anyone can say because there is so much more than just being a mom.
I don't want to go out at night and talk about work all night long. But I do want people to be interested in me as a person as a whole and not what they see on the surface (which is a frumpy, casual, slightly overweight, always tired, working mom). I am creative. I am smart. I am managing a multi-million dollar project and events. I am also taking my daughter to dance class, story time, and doing play-doh throughout the day. I'm pretty awesome actually.
So the next time you're out with someone who seems to be "just a mom", I dare you to ask them more about themselves. I dare you let them show you who they really are.